Where you’re probably wrong when trying to figure out what career will make you happy

People forget, when they’re not going through it, quite how painful it is:

That strong desire to be doing something different in life, but not being able to figure out what to do.

It’s excruciating.

Endless nights of lying awake, trying to figure it out, coming up with ideas and then reasons why that idea won’t work, or coming up with no ideas at all.

Hours trawling the internet, reading books, watching youtube videos on how to figure it out. That sense that you’re grasping, but you’re not sure what for, not feeling like you’re actually getting anywhere, that you’re just going round in circles.

And then there’s that fear beneath it all that perhaps you just won’t figure it out. Perhaps it’s just not for you, this whole having-a-job-you-love thing. Perhaps you should just give up and resign yourself to the fact that maybe you were just never going to enjoy work.

It can be depressing, exhausting and stressful. And if you’re going through it right now, let me just say, I feel your pain. I have been there, it is no fun. In fact, for me, that space where you feel stuck and are desperately trying to figure your way out, but feeling like nothing is working and that it’s all hopeless, is one of the worst places to be stuck in.

But let me also say, you could put an end to your misery overnight by doing one very simple thing:

Getting help from other actual real human beings.

It is so obvious, so simple and yet so often we um and ah and drag our heels before finally (and usually because we’ve worked ourselves up into a state of border-line hysteria) seek out help.

And what do I hear time and time again from people when they finally do that? I wish I’d done it sooner.

But we all do it. I still do it. I wait until I’ve got my knickers thoroughly in a twist and only then do I suddenly think to get help.

Go figure. It’s a human blip in our make-up.

So who do I turn to when I’m stuck and need someone to help me figure out the mess in my head and what it is I need to do next when it comes to career and business? Well, for the past 10 years there has been one lady in particular who has been on my speed dial: Marianne Cantwell of Free Range Humans.

She is laser-sharp on seeing what is missing, brings fresh options to the table which I’ve never thought of and always manages to help me not only find a path forward, but a path that feels really right for me.

She did it for me again just the other day and yet again it blew me away at how quickly she was able to show me what was missing and what was needed. And the relief that comes with that is just priceless.

Likewise I’m one of the people she turns to when she’s stuck and needs my help in getting to the heart of the matter. She calls me the coach that other coaches turn to.

That’s why I love it when I get the chance to work with Marianne, teaming up to help others figure out what they want to do with their careers, whether they have dreams of running their own business (if only they could figure out what business), escaping a 9 to 5 office job (when that’s all they’ve ever known) or simply doing something they love and earning a living from it (if only they could figure out WHAT that thing might be).

Together we are a dynamo and we know it ; ) because we know, first hand, the power that the other one has in identifying what is missing and what is needed, the ability we each have to create great ideas where moments ago there seemed to be no options at all. And we relish watching one another work our magic on the participants in our courses.

That’s why I’m so excited to be joining Marianne now in March as we run the Free Range Humans ‘Ideas Adventure’ course together.

This course has become something of a legend. Designed specifically for people who know that they want to be doing something they love, but are stuck in that horrible hole of not being able to figure out WHAT – either because they have no idea what to do or have too many ideas and don’t know which one to go for.

It turns the nightmare of not knowing what to do into a fun and powerful adventure of finally figuring it out.

We ran it together last year and it rocked even my own expectations in terms of the results people got. And there is something so powerful about bringing people together who are in the same boat. There is nothing quite like it. The buzz that everyone gets from it is amazing.

We’ll be releasing full details of it soon so if you want to find out more then drop your name here and you’ll be the first to find out:  www.free-range-humans.com/ideasadventureinvite/

In the meantime, if you’re lying awake every night trying to figure out what the hell you’re going to do with your life and feeling like you’re not getting anywhere, then will you please give yourself permission to STOP.

It doesn’t need to be nearly as hard as you’re making it.

All you need is to stop trying to do it all on your own.

x Selina

Selina Barker